Counseling in Ventura, CA and Online
In my Ventura office and online, I provide depth psychotherapy for both individuals and couples who are committed to personal growth, deepening their understanding of self & others, and to the health of their relationships.
I also provide online coaching to college students and working professionals who frequently travel and who'd love to have consistent support no matter where they are in the world. This also includes expats, location-independent entrepreneurs, consultants, college students away from home, and other nomads.
Throughout all of my work with clients, I believe in the healing power of honoring your own inner voice, passions, and values as your guide.
My clients come to me looking for extra support in the following areas:
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Anxiety appears in our lives in a variety of forms and levels of severities. When we are juggling many stressors and pressures, trying to keep it all together, one more straw can break the camel’s back, manifesting as panic attacks, OCD, emotional meltdowns, short tempers, sleepless nights, nightmares, health and other worries, performance anxiety, perfectionism, social anxiety, eating disorders, impulsiveness, and/or chronic physical health problems.
We experience anxiety when we are focusing our thoughts and energy on the future rather than the present moment. However, only when we are truly present to what is can we be effective and bring about positive future outcomes. And feelings of happiness and contentment happen when we are present in the moment.
Anxiety can be paralyzing and downright frightening when it feels as if its speedy whirling momentum takes control of your mind and body. I offer effective strategies and tools to share with you to better manage your anxiety and reclaim your life and the choices you make while we work through the underlying issues at its roots.
You can’t remember the last time you laughed. You faintly recall there were things you used to enjoy doing…some time ago. Everything feels like it requires so much energy to do. You just don’t have it, except to do the bare minimum necessary, and then even sometimes not that. Motivation? Not happening, which also gets you down. Its hard to make a decision, and you feel apathetic. You almost don’t care and don’t want to do anything to make it better.
But really, you do. Some wise part of you within is awake and watching, wanting to lift your soul out of this heaviness, this rut you feel entrapped inside. It wants to take off this heavy raincoat and backpack full of rocks and feel the sensation of both raindrops and the sun. So here you are on the internet searching for a way to somehow to feel lighter. Free. To remember what it is like to laugh and experience a sense of joy.
Smart young women face tremendous pressures in today's world across all life areas: school, career path, dating, health, appearance & body issues, friendships/frenemies, family/cultural roles and expectations, etc.
While there are more opportunities than ever, young women often can feel confused and torn in choosing a life direction-- being a career woman (and what career), getting involved in relationships, married, and/or starting a family, or trying to do it all expecting themselves to be superwoman in every realm of life.
The questions "what do I want to be when I grow up?" and "who do I want to be when I grow up?" may be lifelong queries, sorting how you see yourself from the messages and expectations you may have received from your family or culture. Dating and relationships along the way provide opportunities and accompanying heartache to learn more about yourself. It can be super helpful to have supportive guidance throughout this time period to develop clarity, trust in yourself and your strengths, and to find your unique way of moving forward in the world.
Whether you've moved from one country to another, or from one area to another, you may be dealing with the challenges of acculturation. Besides potential geographical and weather differences, every place has different cultural norms and unspoken expectations that can be difficult to get used to. You miss your family, friends, favorite restaurants, stores, places to hang out, and feeling loved and understood. Maybe you are not even sure where home is or where you belong. Or maybe you never felt like you belonged anywhere; you've been like an outsider even in your own family.
Whatever the case may be, I welcome the opportunity to connect with you wherever you are, here or afar, to give you my empaty, understanding, perspective, and time and place where you are accepted and belong to work through these challenging passages.
Whether the spark has significantly dampened or emotional reactivity has one or both of you acting in ways you are not proud of, your communication skills could probably use a good tune-up. Often couples who love each other deeply can find themselves at a point where they can no longer truly hear each other, reacting, getting defensive, avoidant, and/or tuning each other out, and therefore neither partner feels heard, understood, or appreciated.
Misunderstandings, assumptions, and resentment build which erodes intimacy. I integrate several techniques to help partners reconnnect, communicate and be heard by one another, facilitate understanding and compasssion, neutralize built-up resentment, so you can experience the enjoyment of your partner's beloved qualities again. Straight, gay and lesbian couples welcome. You may choose to attend together or to work on the presenting issues individually.
I help my clients feel expansive enough to make choices based on what is genuine, rather than feeling weighed down by old conditioning/social pressure/people-pleasing. Often, even after just one or two sessions, my clients tell me that they "feel like a weight has been lifted off."
To find out if I might be a good match as your therapist, click here to schedule a complimentary 15-minute consultation.
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I provide support for straight, gay, lesbian, and/or trans couples in the following areas:
- Pre-marital and pre-cohabitation counseling
- Navigating identities, roles, family and expectations
- Rekindling the spark
- Sexual issues, compatibilities, past trauma
- Repairing misunderstandings, tension and resentment
- Improving communication and healing emotional volatility
Often couples who love each other deeply can find themselves at a point where they can no longer truly hear each other, reacting, getting defensive, avoidant, and/or tuning each other out, and therefore neither partner feels heard, understood, or appreciated. Misunderstandings, assumptions, and resentment build which erode intimacy.
I integrate several techniques to help partners reconnect, communicate and be heard and appreciated by one another, as well as decrease emotional reactivity so you can experience the enjoyment of each other’s beloved qualities again. You may choose to attend together or to work on the presenting issues individually